Ask Aunt Flo: Cramps, Careers and Confidence

Did Aunt Flo answer your questions this month? Read on to find out!

We back, back, back again! You had some doozies for me this month. Realllly put miss Aunt Flo to WORK! Settle in, grab some hot chocolate, and check out if I A’d your Q’s this month! Have a question for lil’ ol’ me? DM me on IG @knixteen!

Cramps ugh *shudders*. If the bleeding wasn’t enough, there are those pesky, annoying and painful cramps. Some months are worse than others, but they’re always just kinda....there. So how do you escape the inescapable? 

In no particular order, here are some ways to relieve those horrible, no good, very bad cramps. 

  1. 💤😴 (sleep!)
  2. 🏊‍♀️🏋️‍♀️ (exercise!)
  3. 🚿🛁 (bath!)
  4. 💊🤒 (Advil or Motrin! But talk to a parent to make sure!)
  5. ♨️🔥 (hot compress!)
  6. Stay home from school! JK but! Sometimes you just gotta! Sorry mom!

Honestly, who does know what they want to be when they grow up?? Not me! Sure, writing advice columns are a joy and a treat (I love telling others my opinions), but life is long and there are a million options. What if one day I want to be a pilot? A roller coaster designer???? An Oscar-nominated actress??????? The POPE???????????????

It’s not bad that you don’t know what you want your job to be when you grow up. You haven’t figured out all the things you like doing just yet, and that will come with time. You gotta live to know! And you basically juuuuust started living. So take a deep breath! Don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

If it’s really stressin’ you out and you don’t have much patience for the “waiting it out” and “experiencing life to understand what you like” game, you can always do my fav activity: research. Talk to adults! What do your parents do? What do your older cousins do? Aunts? Uncles? The people you admire? Even if you don’t want any of their careers, at least knowing what you don’t want to be might help shed light on what you do want. 

Here are 2 important lessons I’ve learned in my little life: 

  1. I've said this before and I'll say it again!! No one is ever paying as much attention to you as you think they are, especially in the classroom. Everyone is in their own little heads, thinking about their own little lives! I’m hungry. I have to pee. This is boring. Do you think my parents will get me Gucci for Christmas? Are Shawn Mendes and Camila dating for real? (the answer to both is no, wake up people!). Everyone’s inner monologue is constantly running, which is a big PHEWF because that means no one really cares if you mess up a word when reading out loud, or if you stumble when presenting in front of the class. I personally find this to be super comforting, and it takes the pressure off at least a little bit.
  2. Everyone is faking it until they make it! If you don’t feel super confident, just act like you are. Raise your voice a little louder. Maintain good eye contact. Even if you’re not sure of the answer, just say it like it’s 1000000% a fact. Your ideas deserve space and attention, and you owe it to yourself to share your brilliant brain with the world. You got this!

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